| Author Stan Cronin's curiosity led to his writing this
unique book! He devised and circulated a very detailed questionnaire
in which he asked wives about their dating relationships with
their husbands. More than a thousand wives responded, and
brother, did they unload on him! They wrote very frank replies
revealing both the good and bad traits of their husbands,
and expressing exactly what they desired in their husband-wife
relationships. Personal desires and viewpoints varied, of
course, but their cumulative answers sent some strong signals
to the husbands of today.
Armed with their insights, Stan
has written How to Date Your Wife--a book that can bring
very large doses of happiness to marriages if the husbands
will read the book and apply it. And wives, if they are wise,
will do well to put the book in their husband's hands at their
earliest opportunity.
This book is about change! It proposes
that a husband's primary goal needs to be to make his wife
happy, and then it gives some very valuable instructions on
how to make that goal a reality, using dating as the operative
mechanism. Chapters with this objective include "How
to Begin the Change," "Creating New Habits,"
"Choose to Be an Excellent Husband," "Thoughts
Beget Action," "Treating Your Wife 'Right' Now,"
"How to 'Serve' Your Wife," and "Nice Things
to Say to Your Wife."
In addition to the chapters focusing on
improving a couple's interpersonal relationships, others give
very concrete suggestions for a wide variety of dating experiences.
Chapters with this orientation include "Fifty-two Ideas
for Successful Dating and Marital Harmony," "What
Wives Like to Do," "Daily Dating Habits," "Enjoying
Weekly Dates," "Quarterly Dates," "Make
Your Anniversary Dates Special," "Treat Yourselves
to Five-year Trips," and "Savor the Golden Years."
This is a truly valuable book for you,
whether you are a wife or a husband! Read it, sow the seeds
it provides, nourish them, and then, together with the one
you love, harvest the rich rewards of marital happiness which
it advocates for you. It can change your life! |
| Acknowledgments,
9
Introduction,
11
1.
Dating Defined, 17
What Is a Date?, 17
A Date Requires Interaction, 18
A Woman Needs "Listening to"
and "Talking with", 18
Don't Compare Your Marriage to Others,
19
How to Start? Have Your Wife Fill Out
the Questionnaire, 19
Today's the Perfect Date!, 20
2.
Why You Should Read This Book, 21
The Valentine's Day Note and Rose, 22
Your Primary Goal: Make Your Wife Happy!,
23
The Eight-Cow Wife, 24
3. How to Begin the Change, 25
The Basic Assumption, 25
You Need to Confirm and Validate Your
Words with Action, 26
Practice Showing Your Love, 27
Stop Waiting for Your Ship to Come In,
28
Act--Don't Wait to Be Acted Upon, 28
4. Why Date Your Wife?, 29
Always Treat a Lady with Respect, 29
Communication Is the Key to a Good Marriage,
30
Try to Create Fond Memories, 32
Grow in Your Appreciation for Each Other,
32
Be Willing to Serve Each Other, 33
Give of Yourself, 36
Enjoy the "Ripple Effect", 36
Remember the Hundred/Hundred Proposition,
37
Don't Be Involved in an Unhappy Spiral,
38
Be Persistent, 38
5. Creating New Habits, 41
Save Your Money, But Smell the Roses,
Too, 41
Create Memories for Your Golden Years,
42
Look into Her Eyes, 43
Conversations Start with a Touch, 43
Don't Sweat the Trifles, 44
Provide Solutions, Not Criticism, 47
Listen to the Voice Inside, 47
6. Fifty-two Ideas for Successful Dating and Marital Harmony,
49
Successful Dating Ideas 1 Through 52,
50-75
Review at the End of the Year, 75
7.Choose
to Be an Excellent Husband, 77
Pursue Excellence in Your Marriage, 77
Choose to Elevate Your Performance, 78
8.
Thoughts Beget Action, 79
Your Dating Habits Reflect Your Thoughts,
79
Pick Up a Pen, 80
You Are What You Repeatedly Do, 81
Your "Cherished Thoughts" Create
Your Actions, 82
Alter Your Destiny By Altering Your Thoughts,
83
9.
Dating and Money, 85
Pay Now So You Won't Have to Pay Later,
85
Dating Doesn't Always Have to Cost Money,
87
Use Credit Cards for Convenience, Not
for Loans, 88
Time with You Is What She Wants, 91
Decide How You Want to Travel, 93
10.
Correcting Some Illusions About Dating, 97
Illusion: There is No Need for Dating
After Marriage, 99
Favorite Memories Shared with Husbands,
100
Illusion: There Is No Room for Improvement,
102
Include Your Wife in Things You Now Do
Alone, 103
Illusion: We Have to Watch the Children,
104
Illusion: Apologizing Is a Sign of Weakness,
106
Illusion: Dating Costs Lots of Money,
109
11. Overcoming Excuses for Not Dating, 113
Excuse: I'm Too Tired, 114
Excuse: I'm Too Busy, 116
Excuse: I Don't Feel Well, 117
Excuse: We Have Children, 117
Excuse: We Don't Have Any Money, 118
Excuse: I Don't Want to Do That, 119
Excuse: I'm Going Out with the Guys,
120
Magnification Improves Attitude, 121
Attitude without Action Is Useless, 123
12.What
Wives Like to Do, 125
Be Both Physically and Emotionally Available,
126
What Wives Enjoy on Dates, 127
Husband Behavior Which Wives Do Not Like,
128
13. Daily Dating Habits, 131
Make Your Love for Your Wife Visible to
Others, 131
Cultivate Laughter, 136
14. Enjoying Weekly Dates, 143
Places You Shouldn't Go, 143
Suggested Short, Fun Dates, 144
15.
Quarterly Dates, 149
16.
Make Your Aniversary Dates Special, 153
Never Miss Celebrating Your Wedding Anniversary,
153
Suggested Anniversary Dates, 154
17.
Treat Yourselves to Five-year Trips, 157
When to Plan YourTrips, 157
Make a Preliminary Budget, 158
Set a Weekly or Monthly Savings Goal,
158
18.
Savor the Golden Years, 161
Empty-nesters Need to Rekindle Their Romance,
161
A Love Story Reconstructed from the Survey,
162
Too Old to Date? No Way!, 164
Formulate Your Own Golden-years Philosophy,
165
19.
Treating Your Wife "Right" Now, 167
He "Should've" and He Did, 167
Give Thought to What "Right"
Is, 168
Your Life Is the Sum of Your Memories,
168
Dream Your Future into Reality, 169
Use Adornment in Your Dating Life, 170
Do It Right "Now", 172
Make "Self-sufficiency" Part
of Your Basic Conduct, 173
20.
How to "Serve" Your Wife, 175
If Your Wife is a Nag, You're Probably
the Reason, 175
Apply the Truly-Golden Rule, 176
Suggestions for How to "Serve"
Your Wife "Right", 178
21. Nice Things to Say to Your Wife, 179
Hearing More Than Just Words, 179
Try This Thought-provoking Role-play,
180
Be Aware of Your Tone of Voice and Body
Language, 182
Great Lines for Your Personal Soap Opera,
182
22.
How to Use This Book, 185
Suggested Uses 1 Through 4, 185-189
Appendix (Dating Questionaire), 191
Index,
205
About
the Author, 209
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